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The Law Of Giving & Receiving...And A Turn On A Soap Box!

By Pamela K. Jones

"The more gratefully we fix our minds on the Supreme when good things come to us, the more good things we will receive, and the more rapidly they will come; and the reason simply is that the mental attitude of gratitude draws the mind into closer touch with the source from which all blessings come."

Wallace D. Wattles

I am truly amazed that most people still don't realize that in order to receive, you have to give in gratitude.  It's one of the most basic laws of nature. 

"Nature gives all, without reservation, and loses nothing; man or woman, grasping all, loses everything."

James Allen - The Path To Prosperity

There lies the key to it all.  It is via us consciously connecting with Nature, which is another name for Source, of which we are always ONE with, whether we consciously know it or not, and acting in accordance with Nature, or "our own nature", that we give all without reservation, and lose nothing, versus forgetting that we are ONE with Nature or believing that we are separate from Nature/Source, and in the process of living from that illusion, we grasp all and, consequently, lose everything.

The Law of Reciprocity, one of the laws of our wonderful Universe, also supports this fact beautifully.

The Law of Reciprocity means:  to give and take mutually; to return in kind or even in another kind or degree.  The Law of Reciprocity is the very basis for The Secret Wealth Network's Success System, which is why this very web page was created.  This Success System is predicated on the Reciprocal Giving of AMAZING GIVERS via gifting this website and all of the extraordinary value that it contains...over and over again...and those people doing the same..and so on, and so on, etc.  This literally brings to life one of my most favorite old sayings...

"Every man is a link in the chain of my good."

The Law of Reciprocity, (which applies in EVERY culture on the face of the earth), simply explains that when someone gives you something, you feel an obligation to give back.  This obligation is not bad, it is very good.  I personally use to have a HUGE problem with allowing myself to receive any goodness that was being given to me.  This could be something as basic as a compliment of some kind. 

What I finally realized is that whenever I refuse to receive anything that is being willingly given to me, I block my own flow, I stop the cycle, I put a monkey wrench into the mechanical flow of my own Universe.  A lot of my resistance had to do with pride, or in some cases, ego.  In others, it was a lack of self worth aka self awareness.  Whatever the reason, I was literally stopping all the good that was trying to come into my life. 

The bible says, "You reap what you sow."  We have heard this bible verse probably since the day that we were born but do we really understand the significance of it?  Whatever good you do in this world, you are going to receive it back.  In fact, you will usually receive back MORE than you gave.  This could be something as simple as a smile, a compliment, encouraging words, etc.  This is the universal flow in action.  You create a wonderful chain of never ending good, and when you resist or reject the good coming to you from that chain, you disrupt the flow of the Universe...the flow of YOUR Universe.  It's as simple as that. 

"In giving and sharing you always have more.  It seems arithmetically as though one would have less but, in fact, giving expands whatever one has."

Mark Victor Hansen

When you open yourself up to receive the good that is coming to you, the good that is your divine right to receive, this opens you up to give even more and the goodness chain continues on and on, cycling back and forth, to infinity.  If you don't believe me try it sometime.  This is really an aspect of the Law of Attraction in action. 

Also, don't expect to receive anything back from the specific person that you gave to.  As a matter of fact, you should have no expectations whatsoever in giving.  If you do, then you are not truly giving.  The smile that you give today, will come back to you in a smile that you receive from another totally different person the next day, (or sooner).  It's all the same...because we are all ONE!  

That person that you gave a beautiful smile to the previous day is an extension or is ONE with the person, ( or people), who give you one, (or more), beautiful smiles today.  Remember, you usually receive more than you give.  This is all part of the Universal flow that governs the Universe and the sooner that we get in sync with this powerful flow, the sooner we will transform our lives.

"We are never truly more alive than when we live in a state of constant awe of everything that exists in the Universe.  The very fact that anything exists at all is a miracle.  Life itself is a miracle."

Enoch Tan

The Law Of Reciprocity is a basis of trust and a basis for legitimate power.  The principle is that others will reciprocate in kind based upon the way you treat them.  In other words, the world gives you what you give the world, or, again,.....you reap what you sow!

Many people "give" (or don't give), based  "on conditions, strings or judgment."  An example of this is when someone refuses to give to a beggar on the street because they are concerned that the money they give will be used for drugs or alcohol. 

True Giving Has NO CONDITIONS, STRINGS Or JUDGMENT!

If you are giving (or not giving), based on any kind of judgment, strings attached or conditions...then you are NOT truly giving because giving only comes from the heart.  In the example of the beggar on the street, to truly give, you must realize that it's really none of your business what the beggar is going to do with the money you give him.  That's the beggar's issue or business, not yours.  Your ONLY issue is from what space were you giving the money and to truly give, the only "space" that counts is the space that comes from your heart.

"True and authentic giving can ONLY come from the heart."

Pamela K. Jones

For the record, I'm not advocating giving your money away to beggars on the street.  For full disclosure, I don't usually give to beggars on the street, not because I am concerned about how the beggar will use the money I gave him, but because my consciousness prevents me from doing so because I would have to see the beggar as lacking, less than me, unequal or as a victim and my giving money to him would only support that totally false and limiting perception. 

In other words, I would be supporting a lie!

Sorry, my mind, consciousness and heart simply can't go there..even for a "beggar".  That falsehood is not the space where my heart resides.  In other words, I view my giving money to a beggar as perpetuating a fraud; as disempowering him versus empowering him.  I have immense love, respect and reverence for my fellow human beings, regardless of their circumstances or conditions.  This website is a prime example of just how I feel about and see humanity at large, and my vantage point sees no lack, limitation or inequality of any kind in anyone, thank you very much!   

It's the same problem that I have with "homeless feeding programs".  I know that the hearts of the people who sponsor, volunteer and support these programs are definitely in the right place in terms of helping people and giving of themselves, and I am not in any way finding fault with them, but my question is...are "homeless feeding programs" really HELPING the person in need?  Okay, you come out on a Saturday morning or on a major holiday to "feed the hungry ONE meal"...

...and THAT'S helping them??? 

Hello...what about the other meals needed to sustain them on non-holiday/non-weekend meals?  Do these people ONLY deserve meals on "special ocassions" like holidays and weekends?  What about the other average 3 meals needed daily for survival, 7 days a week...or do we just not allow ourselves to think about that pink elephant in the room?  Aren't these individuals worthy and deserving of food EVERYDAY, multiple times a day even?  If this does not reveal the sheer ineffectiveness, (and worse), of "homeless feeding programs" I don't know what does! 

First, it creates a false perception among the people who are serving these sporadic meals that this is actually solving the problem.  It is NOT! Yes, it makes the volunteers "feel good" and feel like they are "helping" but the only problem with that scenario is that their good feelings and "perceptions" that they are actually helping these people are only an illusion, meaning they are totally false! 

How is perpetuating the problem by reinforcing the notion in an individual's mind and consciousness, who may be temporarily "down on their luck" or having hard times, that they are helpless and need you to provide them with the most basic human need imaginable "food" helping them?  What is this actually doing for that person in need beyond that one meal and, more importantly, what is it doing for that person's mindset and inner self worth?  How does this ultimately help them?  How is it in any way EMPOWERING them? 

I can see if the homeless feeding program was utilized as a precursor to the only true alternative of addressing the larger issue of hunger, which is enabling people to empower themselves to be able to feed themselves, but unfortunately, most homeless feeding programs are NOT empowering people in this way and are only "feeding or prolonging the hunger problem" instead of being an actual solution to the problem.  This is particularly true for homeless feeding programs which are surprisingly sponsored and promoted by New Age Type Spiritual Organizations and Communities whose primary purpose is promoting self awareness and self realization.

And, let's just get real here...isn't a "homeless feeding program" sponsored by an Organization or Community whose entire purpose is to promote self awareness and self realization an "oxymoron"?

Definition of the word "oxymoron" from Merriam Webster's Dictionary:

"Something, (as a concept), that is made up of contradictory or incongruous elements."

Come on people, it's time to WAKE UP...and that includes many who "think" they are already awake!

If you really want to get deep about it, how can you really and truly see this same person that you are feeding, providing the most primal and basic human necessity imaginable, food, as your TRUE equal?  I answer with what I know will be seen as a very provocative and controversial answer, but meant with no offense...you CAN'T see this person as your equal in that circumstance.  It may be on a subconscious level, but it is nevertheless true.  

Again, this is not to find fault with kindhearted individuals who participate in these programs because this is all that is available to currently help homeless individuals.  It is however, to hopefully help people to "think differently", to think more imaginatively and originally, the goal being to actually SOLVE the problem instead of merely prolonging or sustaining it.  It's to encourage people to create New Paradigm Solutions instead of forever clinging to Old Paradigm Illusions.  This can be done because we can do ANYTHING we put our minds to. 

Anything Is Possible!

Sympathy: an affinity, association, or relationship between persons or things wherein whatever effects one similarly affects the other.

Affinity: an attractive force between substances or particles that causes them to enter into and remain in chemical combination.

Merriam - Webster Dictionary

We are taught early in life to be "sympathetic" to another's plight.  This is what society has taught ALL of us, whether it be in relation to death, tragedy, misfortune, etc.  In addition to the above definition of the word "sympathy" from Merriam - Webster Dictionary, American Heritage Dictionary's take on sympathy is "a feeling or an expression of pity or sorrow for the distress of another, compassion or commiseration."

I think we already get the feel for what the word "pity" means in addition to knowing that it is not a desired state that we would want directed at ourselves, so why would we feel it is "okay" to direct at someone else, but this did prompt me to look up the definition for the word "sorrow."

Sorrow: mental suffering or pain caused by injury, loss or despair.

American Heritage Dictionary

Okay...so we have sympathy being defined in two separate dictionaries.  Let's take the word "affinity" from the Merriam Webster definition and the word "sorrow" from the American Heritage definition.  Put these two words together and we get...

An "affinity" with "sorrow" aka "mental suffering or pain caused by injury, loss or despair".

As the definition for "affinity" states, affinity is, (paraphrasing) "an attractive force entered into and remained in combination (with)."

So, in essence, when we are in "sympathy" with another person's "plight" as in the beggar's situation, we are in actuality "attracting, entering and remaining in the "idea" of another's mental suffering or despair."  We are creating a resonance to that "idea", empowering it, reinforcing it, solidifying it.  And guess what Universal Law is in effect and guiding this process when this happens? 

The Law Of Attraction, of course via the Universal Principle of "like attracts like."

This is why I have come to the realization that, although definitely not the intention, what sympathy does in reality in this situation, (aka the beggar), is to support "victim consciousness".   It not only supports the victim consciousness within the beggar, but also, as the definition of sympathy clears states, helps to create an "affinity" to that victim consciousness state with the person in "sympathy" with the beggar.   From my viewpoint, this means that in actuality...

"Sympathy is complicity with the illusion in disguise."

Pamela K. Jones

In reality, your sympathy does not solve anyone's misery.  To be blunt, it only reinforces and prolongs it. On the other hand, your deliberate choice and redirected focus on creating or supporting something new aka "a new reality" which instead empowers them will eventually solve or dispel the illusion.  Withdrawing your focus of attention from sympathy, which only supports victim consciousness and re-focusing with deliberate intent on creating a "new experience" for the many caught up in the "illusion", the sooner the illusion will cease to exist. 

When that happens, all will eventually stand for who they really and truly are.  Withdrawing your focus of attention from sympathy and bringing it towards creating a new experience or reality, will bring the desired change for these individuals far more quickly then repeatedly giving aid while considering them to be "poor victims."  This is where trust and faith in "the real" comes in. 

When you choose to place your intent beyond the illusion perceived by the 5 senses or the "tangible", and place it instead on the "intangible" aka the vision, and then take action on creating something new and empowering, or at the very least supporting others who are, you are withdrawing your consent and support of the illusion which you no longer wish to participate in.  In our "consensus driven" world this can be a bit of a challenge...but anything worthwhile in life is.  It's the "easy" things that should give us all pause.

"Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect."

Mark Twain

Does this all sound "insensitive" or worse, "hard-hearted?"

Well, from my point of view, it's "hard-hearted" to play any part in supporting a victim consciousness which repetitively focuses on reinforcing the "illusion" of lack, limitation and helplessness, versus focusing on seeing people, even those who "seem" to be helpless, limited and needy, as who they really and truly are..."Divine Immanations of God in Physical Form, as we ALL are! 

"Repetition does not transform a lie into a truth."

Franklin D. Roosevelt

I would like to repeat yet again, this is NOT to find fault with the many well intentioned and kindhearted individuals, organizations, charities, etc. out there who have chosen this path of service to help people, (with the exception of the type of organizations already mentioned above who should truly know better), but it is to hopefully inspire people, (and organizations), to again,  "think differently", to solve versus perpetuate; to shed light on the REAL truth of the matter to hopefully inspire individuals to begin to use their innate creative genius and originality to come up with empowering solutions to actually SOLVE the hunger and poverty issue in this country and around the world versus only perpetuating and reinforcing the problem, which is exactly what these homeless feeding programs and the like do. 

"The highest way to help people is to empower people to help themselves."

Pamela K. Jones

If I can encourage just ONE person via this writing, whose life's mission is in this particular field, to begin using their vast creative genius towards that end, it's worth it to me. This is really a "wake up call" to get down to the truth of the matter and to ask the serious question, in regard to the true value of homeless feeding programs...are they REALLY a part of the solution...or are they actually just feeding and sustaining the problem?   How are they empowering people, and if they are not, what can be done to change that?

"Where my heart lies, let my brain lie also."

Robert Browning

If the hunger issue continues to be addressed in this manner, it will go on forever and that is NOT an option in this New Paradigm.  The New Paradigm is all about Empowerment, ladies and gentlemen or did you not "get" the true message of this website?  It is time for us to come up with creative and innovative SOLUTIONS and to quit the status quo, conventional wisdom mindset and to totally stop unoriginal and uninspired stop gap efforts that are currently in place and predominant in our society.  A New Paradigm requires New Empowering Ideas and New Empowering Solutions. 

Okay...I'm off my soap box!

To review two remarkable organizations that are each working as an actual SOLUTION to the homeless and hunger problems versus perpetuating or feeding the problems, I recommend that you review the following great examples of two organizations, both featured at the beginning of two web pages on this website to see how "Empowerment versus Disempowerment" most definitely CAN be done...if you put your mind to it:

The Hunger Project, whose motto is "Empowering Women and Men to end their own hunger", is featured at the beginning of the web page titled, "Law of Attraction Tools".

Reality Shifts, a homeless organization whose motto is "Providing a helping hand, not a handout", is featured at the beginning of the web page titled, "Developing Your Intuition."

Feel free to support these outstandingly innovative organizations if you choose to!

Continuing with the writing, my thinking in regard to "beggars" and others in similarly challenged circumstances is...just because someone else sees themself as less than, limited, unworthy or unequal does not mean that I have to support that viewpoint. 

Hardly!  

So, given what I "know" about humanity at large, that EVERYONE has merit, immense ability, true worth and pure genius within them, the ONLY way that I can ever truly "help" anyone is via Empowerment versus Disempowerment; by shining light on and supporting what I know to be true about them, their innate goodness and genius versus supporting the totally false perception of their lack, inequality or limitation. In other words...

I Can't Support The Illusion! 

"There is no reality except the one contained within us.  That is why so many people live such an unreal life.  They take the images outside of them, (the illusion), for reality and never allow the world within, (the real), to assert itself."

Hermann Hesse

The Secret Wealth Network's humanitarian efforts are all about EMPOWERMENT to the individuals that they support.  For example:

• Children International is about each of us empowering a child by not just feeding them but also by helping to educate them and playing a long term part in helping this child to become self empowered and self reliant as the grow up to adulthood.
• The Literacy Site is all about providing poor and low income children with the precious gift of books and other educational needs with the end being again...Empowerment!
• The Child Health Site is about ensuring that children receive basic and preventive healthcare and nutritional needs to have the opportunity to grow up healthy and live their dreams.
• The Hunger Site is about addressing the immediate emergency of famine and extreme hunger world-wide.
• Vitamin Angel is about providing poor and low income children with their basic nutritional vitamin needs so that they can become strong, healthy...and Empowered!
• Trickle Up is not about giving a "hand out" to poor people while disempowering them in the process, but about giving them a "hand up" by empowering poor women and families worldwide by enabling them to provide for themselves and their families via self employment and business enterprise.

The Secret Wealth Network's humanitarian model is a PERFECT example of "thinking big" and thinking creatively with the eventual outcome being Empowerment for the people we are helping with this unique Success System, versus "thinking small" (and with zero imagination), with there being no different outcome because supporting a "hand to mouth existence", solely dependent on someone else, only perpetuates the situation for the person who is in need.  The situation leads nowhere...it either remains static aka the same...or it gets worse for that person.  A clear example of Empowerment versus Disempowerment!

How Does This All Relate To The Law Of Reciprocity?

Let's look at the definition of the law once again:

The Law Of Reciprocity is to give and take mutually; to return in kind or even in another kind or degree.

By empowering the people that you are helping by enabling or supporting them in eventually being able to help and support themselves, you are in turn also helping these same individuals to eventually empower and help others aka to continue the cycle of giving governed by the Law Of Reciprocity.

When you disempower people by supporting the illusion of their helplessness, limitation and powerlessness by giving them "hand outs only", you are only helping to perpetuate the lie of that person's limitation and powerlessness.  How is that person that you are "helping" with your hand out ever going to continue the cycle of giving governed by the Law Of Reciprocity and in turn help others, if they cannot even see beyond the illusion of them being unable to help and support themselves?  This proves that the very nature of the current status quo or consensus mentality governing the majority of "homeless feeding programs" in truth violates Universal Law. 

They stop the universal, recipricol cycle dead in it's tracks.  Of course, homeless feeding programs is just one very tiny example of a much broader and larger picture that needs to change...but change it must!  It's time to "get with the program" that program being aligning with the Laws of the Universe in all that we do in life and leave this old, tired, unimaginative, ineffective "old paradigm" way of doing things behind, once and for all.  That is what this New Paradigm...this New Era is all about ladies and gentlemen!

I am going to repeat a quote that I already included on this web page above, but which I think bears repeating in this instance because of it's importance:

"The highest way to help people is to empower people to help themselves."

Pamela K. Jones

To give a specific example of my idea of "helping" or empowering people who may be in severe and trying circumstances in relation to this actual website, there is a web page on this website titled, "Read Books Online Here".  The inspiration for the creation of this particular web page came after I read a news story a few months ago about there being a record number of men and women incarcerated; in prison in this country.